Friendship possible between man and woman? What do you think?

“Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.” -Oscar Wilde


I have to say that I disagree with the part of this quote that says "between men and women there is no friendship possible." I completely disagree with this statement because I think that one of the most important parts of a relationship or marriage is friendship. One thing my father always told was that "You can fall out of love but you can't fall out of friendship" and that phrase has stuck with me ever since. It has so much truth to it it's almost common sense but it's something we don't ever really think about I guess. In my opinion the foundation of a lasting, healthy relationship is friendship. Of course that isn't always the case, because everyone is different and every situation is different.


What do you think? Do you think that there is no friendship possible between men and women? Or do you think that friendship is important in a romantic relationship? Tell me your opinion!  


Remember always, positive thoughts = positive emotions


Peace, Love, & Happiness,
-@HandyQuotes

Unrealistic Expectations= Unhappiness

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." -Henry Winkler

I like this quote and completely agree with it. A lot of people run into this type of problem but don't realize that this is what is causing the problem. Assumptions or unrealistic expectations can cause the end of a relationship if you aren't careful. Don't have expectations of someone that they can't live up to because it will only leave YOU disappointed.

An example of this would be, say, a couple gets married and the wife has the expectations that her husband will come home from work and immediately begin helping her around the house with chores. But the husband has the expectation that he will come home from work and relax a while and then his wife will cook dinner. As you can already see this will cause some problems. Just imagine if its something thats a little more important like jobs, or children, or family. Before making a serious commitment with someone make sure that you have realistic expectations of each other. Things will go so much more smoothly if you do.

Do you all agree? What do you think of unrealistic expectations or assumptions?

Remember positive thoughts = positive emotions

Peace, Love, & Happiness

-@HandyQuotes

What does one life really mean?

Marriage
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"We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet ... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything; the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things ... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying, 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.'" -Shall We Dance?

I really like this view of what a marriage can be about, the thing is, marriage isn't just about one thing or one relationship. It's about many things and many relationships. Relationships with each other, family, friends, children, and pets etc etc etc. This particular quote is reminding us of some of the simple beauties of marriage, like just having someone around to notice you, to witness your ups and your downs with you. Don't take for granted the little perks of being in a loving, healthy, relationship, they're hard to come around.

What do you guys think about this quote? Leave me a comment and tell me what you think!

Peace, Love, & Happiness

-@HandyQuotes

Do you even know what a healthy relationship is?!

Twitter's trending topic of "A good relationship" inspired me to write this blog post. Lately I have had conversations when some "troubled teens" who expressed to me that they thought it was ok for their boyfriend to hit them (under the right circumstances). This really bothered me, how can the young people of today have the idea that its ok to use physical violence at all?! ESPECIALLY in a romantic relationship! It just doesn't make sense and I wish I could do something about it but you can't help everyone right?

Well this is my attempt to help clarify to those who may not know, what a healthy relationship actually is. And I want to add that it is not rare to find these qualities in a relationship, it might be rare for you but you need to ask yourself "WHY?" is it that my relationship is not like this or my past relationships haven't been like this? DO NOT SELL YOURSELF SHORT! YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY! SO LET YOURSELF BE FREAKIN' HAPPY! QUIT MAKING EXCUSES!

If you haven't been satisfied with your previous relationships then maybe you should change your approach, you can't keep going about it the same way and expect different results! One last thing for my rant- MOST of the time, you will not find the woman or man of your dreams in a bar so quit trying.

Some qualities of a healthy relationship:

• Feeling like your own person
• Togetherness and separateness are balanced
• Respect individuality; embraces differences
• Take care of self and care for the other
• Satisfied with the person you are with
• Feelings responsible for your own happiness (doesn't depend on partner to be happy)
• Creates happiness

Some qualities of an unhealthy relationship:

• Feeling incomplete without partner
• Too much or too little togetherness
• Pressure to meet another's standards
• Care and focus only on other person
• Always looking for more or better
• Relying on partner for happiness
• Creates drama