Unrealistic Expectations= Unhappiness

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." -Henry Winkler

I like this quote and completely agree with it. A lot of people run into this type of problem but don't realize that this is what is causing the problem. Assumptions or unrealistic expectations can cause the end of a relationship if you aren't careful. Don't have expectations of someone that they can't live up to because it will only leave YOU disappointed.

An example of this would be, say, a couple gets married and the wife has the expectations that her husband will come home from work and immediately begin helping her around the house with chores. But the husband has the expectation that he will come home from work and relax a while and then his wife will cook dinner. As you can already see this will cause some problems. Just imagine if its something thats a little more important like jobs, or children, or family. Before making a serious commitment with someone make sure that you have realistic expectations of each other. Things will go so much more smoothly if you do.

Do you all agree? What do you think of unrealistic expectations or assumptions?

Remember positive thoughts = positive emotions

Peace, Love, & Happiness

-@HandyQuotes

What does one life really mean?

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"We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet ... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything; the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things ... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying, 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.'" -Shall We Dance?

I really like this view of what a marriage can be about, the thing is, marriage isn't just about one thing or one relationship. It's about many things and many relationships. Relationships with each other, family, friends, children, and pets etc etc etc. This particular quote is reminding us of some of the simple beauties of marriage, like just having someone around to notice you, to witness your ups and your downs with you. Don't take for granted the little perks of being in a loving, healthy, relationship, they're hard to come around.

What do you guys think about this quote? Leave me a comment and tell me what you think!

Peace, Love, & Happiness

-@HandyQuotes

"Life is a game with no rules."

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Life is NOT "Supposed to be Fair." Know that there is no single way that life is "supposed" to be. Demanding that life meet our expectations is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence. Life is a game with no rules. Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions. Our only path to happiness lies in being open to receiving whatever life throws at us - with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Do you even know what a healthy relationship is?!

Twitter's trending topic of "A good relationship" inspired me to write this blog post. Lately I have had conversations when some "troubled teens" who expressed to me that they thought it was ok for their boyfriend to hit them (under the right circumstances). This really bothered me, how can the young people of today have the idea that its ok to use physical violence at all?! ESPECIALLY in a romantic relationship! It just doesn't make sense and I wish I could do something about it but you can't help everyone right?

Well this is my attempt to help clarify to those who may not know, what a healthy relationship actually is. And I want to add that it is not rare to find these qualities in a relationship, it might be rare for you but you need to ask yourself "WHY?" is it that my relationship is not like this or my past relationships haven't been like this? DO NOT SELL YOURSELF SHORT! YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY! SO LET YOURSELF BE FREAKIN' HAPPY! QUIT MAKING EXCUSES!

If you haven't been satisfied with your previous relationships then maybe you should change your approach, you can't keep going about it the same way and expect different results! One last thing for my rant- MOST of the time, you will not find the woman or man of your dreams in a bar so quit trying.

Some qualities of a healthy relationship:

• Feeling like your own person
• Togetherness and separateness are balanced
• Respect individuality; embraces differences
• Take care of self and care for the other
• Satisfied with the person you are with
• Feelings responsible for your own happiness (doesn't depend on partner to be happy)
• Creates happiness

Some qualities of an unhealthy relationship:

• Feeling incomplete without partner
• Too much or too little togetherness
• Pressure to meet another's standards
• Care and focus only on other person
• Always looking for more or better
• Relying on partner for happiness
• Creates drama

"Every problem has a solution"

"An inspiring fact to bear in mind: Mathematics may not teach us to inhale oxygen and exhale carbon dioxide or to love a friend and forgive an enemy. But it gives us every reason to hope that every problem has a solution."

I really like this quote.. It's pretty simple and straight to the point. I believe that every problem has a solution its just a matter of us figuring out the true problem, the right solution, and applying it correctly. Sometimes things get really frustrating and stressful and we lose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel. Take time to clear your head and take care of yourself and then work on fixing the rest. If there is anything I have learned through the years is to take care of yourself first and the other stuff becomes easier to figure out.

What do you think? Does every problem have a solution? What makes it easier for you to figure out and work through your problems?

Take a minute to think about what helps you, maybe you've never thought about it at all. Knowing your resources and utilizing them will make all of the difference in the world. Use what you have to your advantage whether it be, a friend who listens to you and gives you helpful advice or a hobby that helps you relieve stress.

Always remember positive thoughts = positive emotions

Peace, Love, & Happiness,

-@HandyQuotes

"Look for fun first, then let love happen."

"Look for fun first, then let love happen."

I heard this quote on a show a few days ago and really liked it. I think its a great strategy to building a good relationship. We always hear that you shouldn't look for love, just let love find you. Well in my opinion this should be the second part to that quote. We shouldn't look for love because we don't always look for it in the right places. But if you put yourself out there just to have fun then you are more laid back and more yourself. It's more productive to just "wade" into relationships rather than diving in head first. But I guess that depends on if you are ready for that type of relationship, you know, a mature one.

If you think that you are doing these things and aren't finding what it is you are looking for, maybe it's you who needs to do some evaluating. Look for patterns but don't worry yourself over it. It's the past, you are supposed to LEARN from it. What obstacles did you have to overcome and what lessons did you learn from your mistakes?

Positive thoughts = positive emotions

Peace, Love, & Happiness

-@HandyQuotes

Characters

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People come, people go – they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not the ones from the past."
— Nicholas Sparks (The Rescue)

I really love Nicholas Sparks and so many of his quotes,

I saw this one today and thought it would be a good one for a post! Hope you all like it as well! Leave me a comment if you have any suggestions for my next blog post! Or you can just email me at HandyQuotes@yahoo.com

Have a great week and don't forget positive thoughts = positive emotions

Peace, Love, & Happiness

-@HandyQuotes